People model what they see.
You may have heard the saying before, “Do as I say, not as I do.” I personally have never understood this. If someone told me to do something, I would expect them to not only be able to do it but already be doing it as well. If not, why should I listen to you? In sports, we trust our coach will outwork us in practice on any given day. In martial arts, the instructor is always a challenge to the pupil. In business, we learn from the mistakes others have made, and the strategies and principles that are giving them current credibility.
It is one thing to be older and wiser, but it is a whole other ballpark to speak from a place of authority and be credible and relevant in the topic at hand. You may have lived for a hundred years, but if you are still thinking that the fastest way to communicate is to write a letter, your credibility in the advice you are offering is limited. Those who lead others do so from a position of current credibility, from leading themselves with the same advice they are handing out.
As we grow into the people we are becoming, it is important that we enjoy the process. The journey of becoming great begins with loving the fact that greatness is already around you. The great part about becoming great is that you are becoming it, meaning that part of you already is great. I believe that as we grow, we are never fully complete with our journey, and the process of becoming great is realizing that greatness has been within us all along.
In the journey of becoming someone that people stand behind, will pay money to listen, read, and buy their products, self-awareness is crucial. I like this quote that I stumbled upon recently, which says, “The greatest thing in the world is to know how to belong to oneself.” – Michel de Montaigne.If we know how to listen to ourselves, be honest with ourselves, and take responsibility for our actions, helping others help themselves become great leaders.
A successful business owner named Greg Duncan once said that ” The greatest charity is to eliminate charity by teaching self-sufficiency.
We can sense confidence and direction.
It is vital to know why you do what you do. Many people come right out of the womb or right out of high school with a path already predetermined for them, whether they like the path or not. The harsh reality is, many of these people never take the time to think for themselves and ask if this is what they really want to do. I’ve learned that I don’t need to love what I do, (although I can certainly learn to) but rather love the outcome that what I do creates. This is important- know why you do what you do. If you really love your job, would you keep showing up if you stopped getting paid?
On the other hand, building your business in whatever endeavor you choose may take a few months or even years to see a real success. Are you willing to stick with it in order to a
chieve the freedom of time and finances? Is that possible with the endeavor you are pursuing?
People can tell when someone has belief in themselves. We are keen creatures, and have a knack for feeling out dishonesty and manipulation. When we are not confident in who we are and where we are going, we either will feel that we are manipulating others by giving them direction, or we will be interpreted as manipulating others, even if we do not intend to do so. Once you have a clear, precise direction of where you wish to be, how long and wha
t steps you will take to get there, and a strategic plan of action for any uncertainty, You are well on your way to begin moving.
Most important in determining where you will go and why you believe you should head that direction, is to ask why people should come with you. Life is better with great friends and family. At the end of our lives, it is my hope that you count the laughs and fun times you had with those closest to you, rather than the amount of hours you spent commuting, the troubles you had with customer service, and how much money you made.
The key to building a profitable business, a successful organization, and a winning team is to surround yourself with the right people, whose values align with yours.
Leaders follow other leaders. Be authentic.
Like confidence, people can sense authenticity. They know when you are being honest with them, and honest with yourself. This goes back the earlier point, of having current credibility. Along with that, knowing what you value most is crucial to having a successful pursuit, whatever you define success as. No amount of money will make you happy if you have no one to spend it and share it with. Find great people to work with, know why you want to work with them, and the how and what will unravel itself.
Many figures throughout history had thousands and even millions of people at their funeral. Why?
These leaders made a huge impact on the lives around them. Without going into detail about these people, I will link here the list. The question is then, what do you want to be remembered for? What kind of legacy do you want to leave behind? If you haven’t thought of this before, and have had trouble deciding why you want to make money, or how you want to help people, asking yourself how you want to be remembered may help you out.
How do peoples lives improve with you in it? This question is huge. If you don’t know how other people benefit from you being in their life, how will you benefit from the decisions you are making? What value do you pride yourself in adding to everyone you meet? Honesty? Kindness? Active listening? Thoughtful questions? A realistic optimism? Being able to ask yourself questions will allow you to learn how you can really help the world, make more money, and have a happier life.
As we become leaders, we must learn to be patient with ourselves, learn from those before us, and continue to grow ourselves. It takes time to become the man or woman you aspire to be, but your future self depends on your diligence now, as well of the millions of lives you will impact.
I’d love to know what your thoughts are on leadership, authenticity, or anything else you read today, as well as throughout my blog. Leave your comments and questions down below! Have a great day!