No one cares about what you want.
Whether you like it or not, no one cares whether you like it or not. The vast majority of the planet could care less what you think and feel, and this is just being honest. Deep down, all of us have an innate caring for the betterment of the planet. However, that drive is covered by plenty of culture, opinion, and ego. Society tells us we are all self-centered, and if you ask someone what a strangers motive it, they will more often than not default to something malicious. That said, it is time to change a few things.
If all of us are saying the same thing about people, we have not given a chance to prove themselves. Even then, Hitler and Amin had kindness in them somewhere. I find it hard to believe that these men were born evil. Every single person as a child is full of love and kindness until the environment around them convinces them to make poor decisions. On the other end of the spectrum, Martin Luther King, Gandhi, Jesus, John Lennon, Tony Robbins, Mother Teresa and many more chose to turn their hardships into blessings for others to learn from. How will you stand out?
I highly suggest you listen to this speech here. We all want to be heard, to feel important, to feel needed and wanted. Those who have and are shooting schools up? They want to feel important, noticed, heard, understood. What happens when someone brings a gun to a school? They get blasted on the news. That is the fame they want and desire. When it is out of malevolence, fame is desired. When an impact is made through love, recognition is irrelevant as long as others lives are improved.
Meet people where they are, ask questions.
How do we stay on the path of kindness, and not allow failures, fears, and dream killers to put out our fire? Take a genuine interest in other people. Ask other’s questions. Improve yourself so that you can help others live a better life. When was the last time you had to walk 3 miles both ways to get water? When was the last time you told someone you loved them? When was the last time you announced or expressed gratitude for what you have, rather than complaining about what you do not?
Make others feel important, appreciated and heard, and you will be abundantly appreciated, sought after, and respected. Very few people take more of an interest in others than in themselves, and we are hard-wired in our primal brains to take care of our own first. As we have evolved over thousands of years, we have begun to realize that it is in our best interest to take care of others, and they can help take care of us.
There are plenty of books to read on the matter of people, and how to effectively deal with them. I used to link books. However, a quick google search will do you just as favorably. Find what works best for you, and if you would like a recommendation, feel free to reach out, and I can do my best based on where you are in life, and who you are.
People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.
Every relationship you build with anyone will take time to build trust. Where does that trust start? With consistent kindness, forward progress towards a common goal, and accountability. Our subconscious minds are programmed to seek out trust, and avoid mistrust. When signals are mixed, other troublesome emotions come into play, and as a modern society, we have “thrived” on logic. It is now time to be able to clearly articulate our emotions, and learn how to bring the world together.
Rationale and logic appeal to us easily, because it makes sense. It is most often chronological, able to be drawn out, counted, or written, and understood by many. Emotions are different. While we can connect deeper with one another through emotion, it is difficult to learn this unique skill. This is not to say that emotion is better or worse than logic; there is no competition. Only that it is much easier to connect on an emotional, spiritual level, rather than trying to rationale everyone to get them to agree.
Connect to others hearts, and their minds will change to adapt to who you are and why you act. Try to logic them to your way of thinking, and it will take days, months, years, to do the half as much as what a genuine smile can do.
As I am in the process of writing a book on how to more effectively do this logically, the secret to figuring this out is learning where you stand. Point being, learn more about yourself and trust your gut. Surround yourself with people who help you learn about yourself. Follow your heart, and trust in the plan that God has for you. You are special, unique, and have something to share with the world.
As we grow up and gain wisdom, make mistakes, and learn how to learn, we are meant to help others find their way. That may mean opening a door to another person. That may be signing them up for a program, recommending a book, or teaching them yourself. You will know what to do when the time comes. Listen to where others are before you try to bring them where you are.