Of course, you feel inspired after that conference.
We often like to tell ourselves that “Tomorrow is the day I will do x, y, z.” I have been guilty of this many times. We feel inspired to better ourselves after sucking up energy from those around us, whether it be at a conference or event we attended, after reading a book or watching a video. Sure, it is easy to do that thing you needed to after these experiences, but what do you do when it’s Wednesday at 7 pm?
Of course, continually watching motivational videos, surrounding yourself with people that inspire you, and a good reading habit does eventually lead to more frequent inspiration. But when we don’t have those habits in place, how do we treat those spur of the moment ideas? Are we more likely to act upon them, or put them off until later? How many late night ideas never turned into life-changing technologies or businesses, simply because we told ourselves “Tomorrow.”?
The key to maintaining inspiration is quite simple and may seem contradictory at first. I’ve found that when I get super excited at big events such as traveling to Australia, attending a conference, or going to the big game, I expect to feel less enthusiastic when I return to normal routine. This emotional sequence has multiple other emotions attached, and that is part of the problem. We attach emotion to experiences.
I would like to make a crucial distinction here-emotions are not wrong, they are out of control. When we attach negative (or positive) emotions to words we use (memories or expectations understood through language), we get stuck with them. We refuse to accept things as we are now since we are holding on to what happened or what could have been. Let it go. Change is constant and the current moment is the permanence we ever have.
Do what needs to be done, regardless of your feelings.
Life is uncomfortable, and there isn’t much we can do about it. Relationships fade. Jobs change. People die. Humans ask weird questions. There isn’t anything we can do about what others do, except lead by example. If you wish to see a change in your life, in your feelings, do something different. Change up the routine. If you’d like to see changes in those around you, change how you treat them.
There is an innate sense of “goodness” instilled in all of us. I firmly believe that not a single person was left out of the “love equation.” Without going into too much detail, (here’s a quick article) we are all wired genetically to strive for love and acceptance. We have a desire to be recognized, valued, and known for something by others.
With that being said, no one feels like waking up at 5 am, at least initially. No one feels like working a 16 hour day or running the extra mile. Over time, through seeing the results of others who made their life uncomfortable, and a growing sense of positive results, we can develop a habit of doing what needs to be done. It’s 1 am, and I’m still writing because it needs to be done.
A side note on that-take care of your body. Sleep, diet, and exercise are essential.
Consistency creates results, and perfect practice makes perfect.
Something as simple as changing the background on your phone, or taking your pet for a walk around the block can tremendously change the course of your day. Doing something a little different each day will do wonders for not only your mood but also your ability to think long term. Doing something new creates new neural pathways in our brains. We are already in the process of creating habits; it is purely a matter of choosing which habits we wish to keep.
Someone recently asked me how I manage all that I do with what seems like little stress. Small, daily, or routine habits are the key. I didn’t use to write as often as I do. Now it is multiple times a day. While I do not always have a full workout every day, I try to at least do some crunches, go for a walk, or ride my bike. These habits started out as ten push ups a day for a few weeks, a couple of sentences here and there.
Ever heard the saying, “Practice makes perfect.”? I believe it is true to an extent. A coach once told me that “Perfect practice makes perfect.” That makes sense as well. One day, I went on to add, “Perfect demonstration makes perfect replication.” Meaning, that when someone teaches something to someone, the student is not going to do nearly as accurate as the teacher on the first attempt. That is why it is important that when we lead, we lead by example.
Whether we like it or not, every single person will have to lead at some point in our lives. Whether it is a discussion or speech in class, a board meeting, a surgery, driving, being a parent, or being the boss, every situation requires someone to be in charge. Some of these leadership moments get sprung upon us, while others are grown into as we mold into better people.
Next time you feel super inspired after hearing someone speak or attending a motivating event, don’t wait for those ideas to create themselves. Take the first one you get, and act upon it. How do you think this article started? 🙂