You created it, whether you’re aware of it or not.
Dear readers, I cannot stress this enough: every single moment of your life is up to you. Every single moment is a decision. Every second of each our lives is something that we have chosen to do or something that we let someone else decide for us. Letting someone else decide for us is still a decision. All of us are afraid to make decisions. What separates those who win from those who kinda win, is pushing through that fear, and doing it anyway.
Master your fate. All of the little innuendos that you mutter to yourself about how the way things should be, how life could be, or “I don’t know where life will take me” statements are giving you exactly what you ask for. Unstable requests give an unstable reality. I have come to firmly believe that every thought and feeling we have is our responsibility. If you say to yourself “Well I can’t control everything” you will believe this, and live accordingly.
I can make these statements quite humbly, as I have been on the other side of the coin. It’s hard to believe that just a few short years ago, I was defeating every good idea I had, sitting around for hours thinking rather than acting, doing drugs and wasting hours, days, weeks, months on social media. WIthout help from God, the universe, the spirit that moves through all of us, and a lot of wonderful people pouring into me, I would not be where I am today.
Even with all of the people who have helped me, and the power of the spirit, I made the conscious decision to keep my ego in check and get my act together. We can have all the help in the world, but if we aren’t willing to step in the right direction, life will continue to be sub-par.
Why are you worried about it?
It is very necessary to be concerned with your life, and the lives of your loved ones. It is another to be incessantly worried about every little detail of their life. This worry comes from a lack of trust, trust in God, trust in the other person. Worry originates from lack of patience, patience for the phase of life we’re in, patience for someone growing up. When we focus on the positives that will happen, rather than the negatives that could happen, being right becomes a lot more fun. Regardless of what you think, you will be correct, so why not choose something enjoyable?
Looking past all of your rationalizations and justifications, ask yourself what good worrying is doing you. The word “worry” is kind of like the word “irk.” Weird to say, and not necessary anywhere, yet lots of people say it. I’m not here to tell you what to say but to gently suggest that you ask yourself what you are thinking and saying, and if it was benefiting yourself and those around you.
What are you showing others by worrying? When we are nervously fretting about this that and whatever (it’s all irrelevant, what will happen will happen, worrying will only make it more likely to happen.) we are oblivious to the feelings of those around us. This can easily turn into paranoia, anxiety, sadness, depression, and more. Then, we project these feelings onto others and create a breeding ground for negativity. Let’s turn that around.
When you control how you respond, you control your destiny.
There is a subtle but crucial difference between an immediate reaction and a deliberate response. Until we have mastered self-awareness and self-discipline, we must deliberately choose our words, thoughts, and feelings. As we mature and have thousands of hours under our belt, our immediate reactions will be these careful responses, and rarely will we stumble. Wherever you are in life age-wise, it is never too late to start making better decisions.
Starting with nothing is better than not starting at all. As a wise man once said, “The biggest risk we will ever take is not taking a risk at all.” The key to any kind of success is disciplined persistence in the same direction. If you want to feel successful, dive headfirst into failure. Surround yourself with positive people. Help those who are negative turn their lives around, by helping them change their thought processes. Live how you want others to be, or as Gandhi said, “Be the change you wish to see in the world.”
Always remain humble with your goals and ambitions. Humility is not weak; it is not less than, it is respectful and honorable. What do these words mean? Give credit where it is due. There is a fine line between taking your life into your own hands, and not taking shit from anyone and thinking that you own the world, and know what is right for everyone.
Every time I say that I have done something great, credit goes to my parents, Steve and Lynn. They along with the mentors in my life who have poured into me. I am eternally grateful for all of these wonderful people, as well as my friends and other family members for encouraging me along the way. Most importantly, thank you, god, for being patient as I learned how to listen.
Get a dream. When you fully own your life, all of your problems and all of your successes are yours. Don’t wait for the life you want to show up at your door. MAKE IT HAPPEN. Do the work, put the long hours in. I’m writing at 1 in the morning. I’m starting a book, I work for and own several businesses, and am going to school to be a psychiatrist. I am not sharing these dreams to brag or make others feel less than. All of these are building towards a bigger dream, of connecting the entire planet, feeding and clothing every single person, not one person left behind.
I can’t do this alone. It takes all of us. Who is with me?